The right wrong guy

Have you ever been in a predicament where you felt someone was right for you only to find out that he was with someone? 
Let me explain

We all have the perfect type of guy/gal that we would love to be with.  My guy would be tall, brown skin, intelligent, and spiritual. I also wouldn't mind if he has children. I'm a single mom and at this point in my life finding a readymade family would be great. This way we can combine our family. No need to look for a man who doesn't have children because he may want to have children. (Uh don't know about that one) I'm not getting any younger and my body it’s a ticking time clock. (Ladies you already know)

Let's see where I begin, there's this guy that haven't known for very long but was there was something about him that made me want him. He's a single dad and he's a fantastic dad at that. He's a gentleman and knows what he wants in life. I could drag out everything about him that I like but I won't. Let's just say there is a mutual person that we know very well and she's the one who brought us together. (She warned me that I would be turned on by his charm and I didn't believe her) I will however tell you that the very first conversation I had with him was so real. We talked about everything under the sun and I actually felt like a high school girl who just got a call from her high school crush. (I was surprised at myself for feeling this way) I've never felt like this before and I didn't get why I immediately found myself intrigued by this man. We laughed and we talked and texted almost every day. Then one day we got into a conversation about relationships and he told me how he was once married but had been divorced for some time now. After, hearing his story I wanted to jump through the phone and hug him. Let's just say some woman don't know how to appreciate when they have a good thing. Anyway, he then asked me why I wasn't in a relationship. I simply told him I refuse to settle and that God will send me the right partner. He then told me that he was in a relationship (my heart sunk) and he had only known her for a couple of months (2 months) but felt he was happy with her. My attitude then changed and because he doesn't know me that well he wouldn't have realize that tone in my voice changed. I didn't want to hear about her but as a friend I listened and told him I was happy for him. (I lied but what was I suppose to say) He told me how she had some insecurities but she had been working on them. He also told me he wanted me to meet her. I was a bit confused because at first he told me that I couldn't meet her for a while because she may get jealous because of my looks. I was thinking it shouldn't matter because she had him and I wasn't trying to get with him. I left it alone and put it to the back of my mind.

Now you would think that our conversations would be different since he had told me about her. Nope, we continued with the same conversation we had from the beginning. I even try to tell him to hook me up with a friend of his. He told me he had someone in mind and I was like great this way I could get him out my head. That didn't work because I never got to meet his friend. We were supposed to meet up once but I wasn't feeling my best and didn't want to meet anyone looking half ass. I wanted to be at the top of my game. (First impression means everything) So I told him to give his friend my number so that we could meet without him. He didn't need to be the middle man between us. His friend never called even though he told me his friend was interested. (I don't think he have him my number) I asked him what happen to his friend calling and he told me that I was to good for any of his friends. (My eyebrow raised up when he say this) how do you go from your friend liking me to me being too good for him. Granted he could have been looking out but I wasn't trying to marry his friend just have a good time

We went out for lunch one day and this is when I found out that the reason I couldn't meet his girl was because he told me I was his type of woman and his girl would know it. I was flattered but by this time I had already took it out my mind that I knew me and him would never get together. I was there as a friend and that's all. We talked we laughed and it felt so right but I know it was wrong to feel that good about some other woman's man. We talked about her issues and like any typical woman who has been hurt or scorned she was looking for something to be wrong with him. He is human just like everyone else and we've all made mistakes. If you’re trying to build something new why look for something to be wrong. I was just like whatever she will dig her own grave. I honestly hope that she would put that aside and just enjoy him. We haven't been the same since we both confessed that we liked each other a little more than we had planned. Now I have to watch what and how I say things because things are taken out of context. I've already had to watch what I say to him and I don't have time for that. So the last conversation I had with him was that I don't like how we are with each other and that I would fix things.

Meaning I would not try and be how we were before when calling or texting him. I even deleted him from some of the same social networks we had alike. We can always talk via text or phone but it won't be the same. I know when to walk away so that I won't feel hurt when he gets all serious on me and wants to shut down. He told me he was a runner (doesn't know how to deal with stuff like this) and I told him there was no need to run. I'm a woman with self respect and I would never disrespect his relationship. So on that note I've stepped back and now he can go on with life and not have to worry about anything. (At least with this woman he doesn't)... Until next time