Woman who say their ready!

Okay this right here is for the fellas. I don't want my blog to seem like its only for woman because it’s not.  So I'm going to flip it and shed some light on why woman act the way they do sometimes. Some may agree and some may not but remember this is just my opinion.

Okay, woman always say they want a real man, a good man, a faithful man...etc (you get it) However are some ready for this your of man when they get one. I will say that there not at all. Why they aren’t ready because they have been lies to, cheated on, abused and so on... These are the woman who always say they are ready to be in a serious relationship and it’s only because the fear of being alone. Now we meet these men and they give us the world but because we aren't ready for it we treat them like trash.

Well I am not ashamed to say I was once this woman. I was young and not ready to be in a relationship at all. Now it doesn't make it right how I treat this man who thought the world of me. He loved me even when I didn't feel the same for him. I knew that he wasn't cheating on me, he didn't lie to me. He was all team Jeanine and I however was team I don't give a fuck. (Truth hurts but it is what it is) I wasn't use to being catered to or loved on so hard. It made me think that he just wanted to have sex with me (and he wasn't getting any) then leave. Why, did I feel like this, I felt like this because I didn't trust men? What I thought of me where that they only wanted one thing and their goal was to use and abuse us. I had no trust in men at all. (This stemmed from the lack of trust I had in my father. Another blog) I could remember him calling me in the beginning in our relationship all the time and I was okay with talking on the phone about everything under the sun. I loved that our communication was always on point. That is until he wanted to start coming around and being in my face. This meant that I would have to be affectionate and believe me I was not that. I didn't like hugging, kissing, cuddling, or anything that meant he had to touch me for long periods of time. (hey I was young and had some issues) So he would come over with flowers and my favorite drink and I wouldn't appreciate it. (Silly ass didn't get it but I do now) I would just take it and put them to the side. He catered to my every need and I didn't get that he just wanted me to love him back. What man do you know would stick around without getting any ass but woke me up every chance he got with his tongue between my legs. (No he didn't get any loving back) I was selfish and I can admit that but I can admit it now I was afraid of what he wanted to give me. LOVE! Love in a way that I never felt before.

Let me tell you how the tables turned on me with this guy. I got pregnant by this man (my daughters father) and now my emotions where all over the place. I now felt that I was ready to love him and give him what he wanted. Affectionate, kissed me, sensitivity and SEX. However, he loved me but I felt the love was not the same anymore. He wasn't as attentive, caring or loving and it was my fault. (I will admit that it was) Now, I wasn't sure if he cheating on me, lying to me or even wanted me anymore. I had the man that wanted me and I wasn't ready for him. I hurt him and in return he no longer had the desire to love me the way he did when he first met me. Now most woman will not admit that they too have been in my shoes but I tell you this if you want a real man then make sure your ready for one.

Of course things are not that way with me anymore and I'm not afraid of love and what it has to offer. However I will say this be careful not to make someone feel away you don't want to feel. Love with an open heart and allow people in. When you find love and it’s real it’s the most beautiful feeling in the world. Ladies don't ask for a real man until you’re really ready to receive all that he's willing to give you.