Can you be friend with your ex?

Now of course this question has two answers to it and as you know I'll explain with my own experience in both answers. (This is just my opinion)

Let's start off by saying hell nah you can't be friends with an ex if you've had a sexual relationship with them. The being friends theory after you have had sex is hard because someone may still have feelings. Then when you try to be their friend they may have get those thoughts of trying to work things out. I'm not saying that everyone thinks like this but most people will agree that sex changes things.

There was this guy that I started seeing when I first moved down to Georgia. He wasn't the typical guy that I would normally date. He was short, (I like my men tall..Lol) a cancer, (which meant that he was too much like me) and was very arrogant. However there was something about him that I was intrigue by. His eyes drew me in and from that moment I was stuck...lol We started out as friends and one day he drove me home from work (we worked together and i found out later it was a big mistake to deal with a Co worker) We got to my place we chilled and talk and the comfort level was great. He attempted to leave but didn't make it. We kissed and I swear I was instantly got wet. (It could be because I hadn't had any in a while..Lol) Anyway, you get exactly what happened after the kiss. He was in my bed and he made me cum like I never did before. That went on for months along with hanging out and other stuff. We ended up cutting it off because I felt he was cheating. He said he wasn't but I couldn't shake the feeling off. However, we tried to be friends afterwards and it didn't work. It didn't work because every time we saw each other we had sex. (He was basically becoming a jump off) I would start feeling things could change and of course they didn't change. I was hurt and decided to cut my ties with him. I didn't want to do the back and forth thing. It wasn't fair to me or him to continue to play games. (We still aren't friends but he often reaches out to see if we can link up. I haven't taken him up on any offers.) So in this case sex changes things for u. We use to be really good friends and now we aren't anymore. (I was sad at first because he was someone I really cared about but life goes on)

Now being friend after you've been in relationship because you have a child involved or you both have moved on is understandable.

I can definitely relate to this answer because I have a child and her father and I are friends. We were together for several years and after we ended it we were not friends. We had to learn to trust each other again. To be considering being a friend in my opinion means you need to trust the person you’re calling a friend. Sexes of course change how we were with each other but out of that came my beautiful daughter. We had history and we both felt that despite our differences we needed to learn how to be friends again. I'm not going to say that it was an easy task because when I love someone I love them with everything in me. So it was hard to see him with someone else and even have another child by that person. Let’s just say if I didn't love him for being a part of bringing me daughter into this world. He would have gotten the boot a long time ago and being friends wouldn't have been an option.

Now these are just my opinions and some may or may not agree. However we are all entitled to our own opinions. If you feel that you have a different out take on this than please leave a comment or email jaysblogg.gmail.com. I will be sure to put your answer in my blog so that other people’s opinions can be viewed.My Journeys maybe long and trying but it has molded me into the person I am today!... Until next time