He knows the true meaning.
What defines a real man? Is it
his bank account, material things, etc. I'm only going off of my perspective of
what I believe a real man to be. Don't go quoting me on what I think a real man
is and start no argument with your man...lol This again is blog is only based
on my opinion and if I feel that I have something that can verify what I've
stated then I will show that in my post.
Now I think I've met some really intelligent, financially, spiritually, and physically attractive men in my life and I can say that I have come across some that I will say are real men. Not the ones who play games and front about their lives when they really don't have it like that. I was just responding to this guy who tweeted “I made up in my mind never to trend any tweet because I love her and I don't want her to feel suspicious. What am I??" Well I responded a real man and the reason why I tweeted that was because if he took the time out to consider her feelings and he doesn't want to see her hurt. (Tweets, Instagram, Facebook post all have a tendency to go wrong) Then what would you say about him? (That was a question he asked about himself) I felt that he was being real and didn't want to jeopardize what he has with his woman. I love that he felt this way and I have nothing but respect for him as a man for doing that.
I guess I could give you an example about a potential relationship that could have started out awesome but could have ended very bad. I say potential because we both came to an agreement that it wouldn't be a good thing to start a relationship. Let me rewind this story a little... When we first started talking we immediately connected in a way we both didn’t expect. Things quickly went left field and that wasn’t a good thing. He had a girlfriend and I was single. I did have this guy I was talking to at the time. (He was not my man) We still kept in touch with each but it was at a distance. (That was best for the both of us) I am nobody's home wrecker and I don't play second place to anyone. I felt that he struggled with maintaining a friendship with me and I was having the same issue. I had no idea where I stood in his life and I was afraid to ask him. I didn't want to put in a place where he felt like he had to choose our friendship over anything else. We both were torn, so I tried to stay away but he didn't want me to do that. Anyway, he broke up with his girlfriend and at first I was happy (only because I was getting my friend back) but at the same time I knew that he was hurting. I felt bad because I shouldn't have been happy at his sadness. So last week sometime I was going through a real bad moment and I reached out to him (via text) and right after I did that. I told him to forget about it and told him to have a goodnight. I was mad, not at him but I was hurting bad and needed someone. (At that time I needed someone that was physically there) I shut down and turned my phone off for the night. I hadn't planned on turning it back on but I did turn it back on the next morning. I had to turn it on because I had to take my daughter to the doctor and the doctors’ number was in my phone. (I need a little phonebook) As soon as I turned it back on, the messages, and voice mails came thru and all I could do was look at them and put my phone down. I wasn't ready to see what anyone had to say. I got three calls from him and it went straight to voice mail because my phone was placed on silent. I had a change of heart and decided to check the messages. I saw that some messages where from people saying goodnight and good morning but not his messages. His was more like, pick up, what's wrong but it wasn't until his final message came through that caught my attention and It stated " how is ignoring me going to make things better". My thoughts were that I wasn't ignoring just him it was everybody. I decided to call him and tell him what was going on with me. He was upset that I had shut him out and I explained to him that I needed me time (even if it was only for half a night). He asked me to not treat him like everyone else and let him know when I felt like shutting down from the world. We talked for a couple of hours after that and he asked me to come visit him and I thought about it and told him I would get back to him on it. His sincerity was so heartfelt and I haven't had anyone care about my well being like that in a long time. However, before we got off the phone he read me a scripture in the book of Romans and I took it in. (Don’t remember the exact chapter and verse but I love the book of Romans period)
Long story short on this one is that he changed his mind about me coming down and I was hurt. I told him that I wasn't going to allow him to play with my emotions. He told me he was sorry but he wasn't going to set us up for failure and I was confused. I didn't think we were trying to build on anything except our friendship. I knew that he had just gotten out of a relationship and starting a relationship was the furthest thing from my mind. He asked me what was it that we were doing.( he had in his mind that we were building a relationship) He told me he still had thoughts of his ex and that it he wouldn't feel right being alone with me. I was mad as hell and told him I understood where he was coming from but I also let him know that he had hurt me again. The very next day it finally sunk in to me, what man would turn down an opportunity to be with someone he wanted. A real man that considers my feelings and one who understands that we could really build something strong once his mind is right. I appreciated that and I can say that my feelings are intact and I'm not hurt by his decision. He's an honest, respectful and spiritual man who knows exactly what he wants. If it’s me then so be it but then again who's say that I will feel the same way by the time he knows. I'm just being real and keeping it 100 like I always do. (If it’s meant then it will be)
My point in telling you that story was that he was a man of wisdom and not a man of opportunity. He respects me as a woman and his issues that he has, has not cloud his point of view of what he wants in a relationship. Again I couldn't think of a more real man than that. No games, No heartbreaks, until next time….
Now I think I've met some really intelligent, financially, spiritually, and physically attractive men in my life and I can say that I have come across some that I will say are real men. Not the ones who play games and front about their lives when they really don't have it like that. I was just responding to this guy who tweeted “I made up in my mind never to trend any tweet because I love her and I don't want her to feel suspicious. What am I??" Well I responded a real man and the reason why I tweeted that was because if he took the time out to consider her feelings and he doesn't want to see her hurt. (Tweets, Instagram, Facebook post all have a tendency to go wrong) Then what would you say about him? (That was a question he asked about himself) I felt that he was being real and didn't want to jeopardize what he has with his woman. I love that he felt this way and I have nothing but respect for him as a man for doing that.
I guess I could give you an example about a potential relationship that could have started out awesome but could have ended very bad. I say potential because we both came to an agreement that it wouldn't be a good thing to start a relationship. Let me rewind this story a little... When we first started talking we immediately connected in a way we both didn’t expect. Things quickly went left field and that wasn’t a good thing. He had a girlfriend and I was single. I did have this guy I was talking to at the time. (He was not my man) We still kept in touch with each but it was at a distance. (That was best for the both of us) I am nobody's home wrecker and I don't play second place to anyone. I felt that he struggled with maintaining a friendship with me and I was having the same issue. I had no idea where I stood in his life and I was afraid to ask him. I didn't want to put in a place where he felt like he had to choose our friendship over anything else. We both were torn, so I tried to stay away but he didn't want me to do that. Anyway, he broke up with his girlfriend and at first I was happy (only because I was getting my friend back) but at the same time I knew that he was hurting. I felt bad because I shouldn't have been happy at his sadness. So last week sometime I was going through a real bad moment and I reached out to him (via text) and right after I did that. I told him to forget about it and told him to have a goodnight. I was mad, not at him but I was hurting bad and needed someone. (At that time I needed someone that was physically there) I shut down and turned my phone off for the night. I hadn't planned on turning it back on but I did turn it back on the next morning. I had to turn it on because I had to take my daughter to the doctor and the doctors’ number was in my phone. (I need a little phonebook) As soon as I turned it back on, the messages, and voice mails came thru and all I could do was look at them and put my phone down. I wasn't ready to see what anyone had to say. I got three calls from him and it went straight to voice mail because my phone was placed on silent. I had a change of heart and decided to check the messages. I saw that some messages where from people saying goodnight and good morning but not his messages. His was more like, pick up, what's wrong but it wasn't until his final message came through that caught my attention and It stated " how is ignoring me going to make things better". My thoughts were that I wasn't ignoring just him it was everybody. I decided to call him and tell him what was going on with me. He was upset that I had shut him out and I explained to him that I needed me time (even if it was only for half a night). He asked me to not treat him like everyone else and let him know when I felt like shutting down from the world. We talked for a couple of hours after that and he asked me to come visit him and I thought about it and told him I would get back to him on it. His sincerity was so heartfelt and I haven't had anyone care about my well being like that in a long time. However, before we got off the phone he read me a scripture in the book of Romans and I took it in. (Don’t remember the exact chapter and verse but I love the book of Romans period)
Long story short on this one is that he changed his mind about me coming down and I was hurt. I told him that I wasn't going to allow him to play with my emotions. He told me he was sorry but he wasn't going to set us up for failure and I was confused. I didn't think we were trying to build on anything except our friendship. I knew that he had just gotten out of a relationship and starting a relationship was the furthest thing from my mind. He asked me what was it that we were doing.( he had in his mind that we were building a relationship) He told me he still had thoughts of his ex and that it he wouldn't feel right being alone with me. I was mad as hell and told him I understood where he was coming from but I also let him know that he had hurt me again. The very next day it finally sunk in to me, what man would turn down an opportunity to be with someone he wanted. A real man that considers my feelings and one who understands that we could really build something strong once his mind is right. I appreciated that and I can say that my feelings are intact and I'm not hurt by his decision. He's an honest, respectful and spiritual man who knows exactly what he wants. If it’s me then so be it but then again who's say that I will feel the same way by the time he knows. I'm just being real and keeping it 100 like I always do. (If it’s meant then it will be)
My point in telling you that story was that he was a man of wisdom and not a man of opportunity. He respects me as a woman and his issues that he has, has not cloud his point of view of what he wants in a relationship. Again I couldn't think of a more real man than that. No games, No heartbreaks, until next time….
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