Friends, Don't put yourself in the zone!

I think we all have either been put in the friend zone or we have placed someone there. In either case it turns out to be a good thing or bad. I've been placed in the friend zone and I've definitely put guys I've met there as well. On that note, I have to tell you my experience from both aspect of the friend zone.

There was this guy that I was talking to and we connected very fast. (To fast if you ask me) The conversations were always on point but there was one thing that he would always say to me. He would tell me that he wasn't looking for a serious relationship and wanted to be friends. I felt kind of bad at first because I thought we were working on getting to know each to work on being together. This was the first time in a long time that I allowed my walls to be let down some. Since he mentioned that he wanted to be friend only, I asked him was he sure he just wanted to be friends. He said he was very sure and I told him once he goes in the friend zone he would be able to anything else. He didn't get it, I was not the one to play games with and he learned that the hard way. One day we were talking and it had to be midnight. He wanted to ask me where our relationship was going I told him that he was bugging. I reminded him that he wanted to be friends only and he started flipping on me. I was like whoa dude this is what you asked for and now you want to be in a relationship. (He put himself in the friend zone) He was like that was something that was said in the past and he didn't want to only be friends. I knew in my mind that it was too late and he didn't have a chance to be anything more than that. FRIENDS!! He told me that he couldn't talk to me anymore if he couldn't have me as his girl. I was feeling sorry for his ass because I knew had he not said that in the beginning that it could have been more than just friends. Anyway, he hung up on me and told me goodbye. I asked him was it a forever goodbye and he said yes and hung up. I will admit that I felt horrible because I really did like him but I was not going to allow anyone to play with my emotions. A minute later he called me back and I asked him why did he call me back and he told me that he was sorry. I accepted his apology and told him that I wasn't into playing games with him. He asked me could we go out to dinner so that we could talk about it. I didn't mind at all but the date we went on was the reason why he never came out the friend zone. I'll explain but it’s too funny

We decided to go to Red Lobster since it was in the middle for the both of us. (I love seafood) We didn't live close to each other so that was a convenient spot for the both of us. Of course I was late and he had been waiting at the restaurant for over 30 minutes for me. Hey, I needed him to see what he was missing out on. (I can be a flirt sometimes) We were seated and this is when all hell broke loose. He started talking shit and that was normal for both of us. However, it was normally done over the phone and not in person. I was not about to even entertain him and he got mad. He called me conceited and told me that I acting all proper. I told him "We are in a public place and there's a time and place for everything and now was not the time." He then started to get loud, talking about he didn't care about this white folk in there and how he could go back to his part of town. (Hood part)  I gave him a look and simply told him that he was not going to embarrass me and I didn't have a problem leaving. He calmed down and started talking normal. At this point I was completely done with him and had no desire to even finish my food. The date ended quickly because I said I needed to go back home to the kids. I was just ready to go and he wanted to hug and kiss me. I was in no mood to kiss or hug his ass. We went our separate ways and from that point on our relationship was done. I still talked to him but every now and again. He calls still but it’s just to get some advice on woman... (Figures...Lol) Until next time…

Crazy thing is right now I have a guy who has put our relationship in the friend zone and I already warned him about my experience with the friend zone shit. He was sure that it was what he wanted. Guess who got a call the other day about having sex. Yup his dumb ass and I told him that I simply don't fuck my friends. (Sorry to be so blunt) It only complicates things and that's not what I want. Stupid guy should have just let what we had ridden out and he may have been that one to get it. Now he all sexually frustrated...Ha ha