Losing Yourself
Today has been a great day, I got off work early and now I
am able to get some writing done. I’ve been MIA for a minute so I haven’t been
able to keep you updated with what has been going on with me. I’m finally in a relationship with someone and
I love how things are going. We have our ups and downs but it seems like we are
in it for the long run. That’s a whole other blog in itself because I’m sure
many will be shocked once I tell my story. However I have a topic that hits
home for me because
I believe a lot of people go through this very situation
I think some of us lose who we are as a person to make
everyone else around us happy. Afraid of not being loved and accepted, we tend
to forget who we really are; a Christian, a Jew, Gay, a Teacher etc. You get
the point in what I’m saying and my only question is why we have to lose
ourselves for someone else’s happiness. Would they change who they are for you?
I doubt it.
I know someone who feels this way and it hurts me that they
rather put their own happiness to the side to appease others. When do we say enough is enough and demand
that the people who say they care about us accept who we are? It just makes me
mad that someone that says they love you can be quick to judge you. I always
say those that are quick to judge have the worst issues within themselves.
I want to touch on a subject that is a bit touchy and I say
that it’s a touchy because people are still not accepting of the choices some
make. If you’re wondering what I’m talking about; I’m talking about the
sexuality of some individuals. I know that the Gay community has hard because people
don’t feel that their lifestyle is right but who are we to judge who someone chooses
to be with. Only God can judge, yet we have many families that are divided
because of it. Why do some people feel that it’s important that men and woman
be with the opposite sex, when being in a relationship? Now, if I chose to be
with a woman would this make me less of a woman because I want to be with one or
does this change that me as a person? To answer my previous questions, it
simple: no it doesn’t change who I am nor does it make me less of a woman. Don’t
get me wrong now; I understand the biblical perception on it. I grew up being
taught that its wrong way of living and it’s ungodly. However, there is nowhere
in the bible that tells us that we should turn our back on each or judge any
individual living that lifestyle. Question is do you love your child any less
because of the lifestyle he or she has chosen to live. Unfortunately, some have
disowned their children because of their choices. I don’t understand how any
parent can make their child feel like they are an abomination to the world. You gave birth to this child and you fell in
love with him or her the moment they laid eyes on them and now you can remove
yourself from his or her life. How this
is possible I don’t know? I could never stop loving my child and I don’t know
how anyone else could.
My point to this is that because of the drastic measurements
people go through to make a person feel that their choice is wrong; causes that
person to put on a façade. I’m not just talking about being gay either. I’m talking
about religion, careers and even the choice of men or woman. This causes some
people to take on a role that satisfy everyone else but themselves. Which is
why drugs, alcoholism and now depression is a huge cause of people committing
suicide. Why are we not looking at this with our eyes and minds open? Our
actions and words are just as bad as serial killers intent on wiping out all prostitutes
he can pick up because he feels they have no respect for themselves. Does he
know their stories and why they have chosen that lifestyle? No, he doesn’t and
he doesn’t care either.
You don’t have to physically abuse someone for them to feel
pain. It’s all in how we treat a person.
It’s like this just because a person practice
Buddhism or Christianity doesn’t mean that you should judge them because they don’t
believe what you do. Who says what you
believe is the best choice for that person. I could actually go on and on about
this topic because it’s something we deal with every day but it doesn’t seem
like it’s going to change anytime soon.
I know some may not agree with me and it’s your choice not
to but it’s my opinion and no one can change how I feel or what I think. However, I do hope that this will help someone
realize that they don’t have to change who they are as a person. If someone can’t
accept you for who you are or what you believe in then they don’t deserve to be
a part of your life and it may even be your family that hurt you the most. You have to be strong and be confident in who
you are as a person. I’m asking you; if
you are battling depression or thoughts of suicide PLEASE SEEK HELP.
There are people out there willing to help you be in a better place. Why give someone
so much power that they can eliminate you without touching you. Until next time
be blessed and love yourself more!!
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