Mixed Signals

Sometimes we tend to get our signals crossed. We can say one thing but it could something totally different. My question is if you are uncertain about what the another person is saying. Why not “Ask Questions”. People would rather not ask questions to only turn around and get mad at the other person's actions. Someone once told me that their not into the “wondering game”. You know wondering what you want to say or how you feel. I thought about it when it was said to me. My conclusion to this is if I say something or don’t say something and you feel you don’t have the time or don care either way. Why even bother at all! To wonder is to show concern because you care. To shut down and dismiss the person's feelings shows the opposite. I always say people will say or do very little and not realize they are saying a whole lot. I will say that I sometimes have a problem expressing myself. I may not say anything or I have said something and my actions showed differently. However, if you don’t respond then it shows how much you really don’t care about me or my feelings. It's not a game that I’m trying to play. It is just that I’m very expressive on paper but finds it difficult to do so in person. I know that when saying one thing but your actions doesn’t reflect what you say can cause signals to be misread. It is, however, a learning process in getting to know a person.

If you say that you to get to know a person you may t to make it clear on how much your will to let that person know about you. Do you have “ general conversations” with a person you want to be friends with or do you let them know more? Is it okay to say that you like, care or love a person only to turn around and dismiss them? How can you one day say that you more and the day things change? Who’s giving mixed signals then? If you five your time and energy to a person it’s only right to expect the same in return

Expectations only cause confusion between people who rather allow things to go with the flow. It can lead to disappointment! You want things but when you are not sure if the other person wants the same; what happens then. This is when signals can be all messed up. You are sexually attracted to a person but realize other than that emotion there nothing more. Can you move on past the feeling once you realize that’s all it was or maybe it was you saw more and the other person didn’t.

Sometimes we go backwards because we feel safe. We know what was at one point. We've cried, laughed, scream and hurt there. So why not go back and feel comfortable in knowing what awaits you. You stop yourself from taking a chance on the new. Not because you don't want to because that would mean you would have to let your guard down. That would also mean you would have to learn new things and in learning these things; you may find out that you there are things you mat not like. There would be things you would need to learn. Who said that life was going to be easy for you? No one said it! What I don't understand is how you ask for the real and run when you get it. Are you sure you can handle what you ask for?. We do it too often even in our prayers. Lord please give me another job making more money. A job opportunity comes along and the requirements aren't what you want. However, it pays more and the benefits are great.( what you prayed for) Your reasoning for not wanting the position is that you have to work weekends. Are you serious? I had to learn this first hand.

Don't ask God for guidance and you take the wheel the moment things start going right. Your seeking him to heal your heart of a relationship that was once bad. Now that the person seems to be in a better space in his/ her life your okay with taking them back. WHY!! You keep on wondering why your life is the way it is. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you deserve more. Don't keep settling for comfort. It doesn't matter how things seemed then. What matters is the right now. Right now your happy but the moment your mind start thinking about he god ole times. You start readjusting your thoughts about how you could make it better this time. I'm not necessarily talking about relationships only. I'm talking about in your entire life. Education, finances, employment and love. Love is forever evolving and it undeniable that everyone at some point in their life will experiences the beauty if it.