Growing from the pain

We all wish there was that somebody that we never met because we get hurt. However, we don't regret any of the good times but we always want to forget the bad. Life is just like a relationship, we can live with the blessings but don't want to go through the storm to get to them. No one saying that we should love being hurt I'm merely saying with love comes pain and with pain comes love. It's unfortunate but it's always a two for one package...smh. I know first hand what it feels like to be hurt and push it to the back burner and not deal with it. Then for some reason my relationships keep repeating itself and I find myself hurt, pushing it back, hurt again and pushing it back. However, I've learned that I had to get passed the hurt in order for me to open up and receive a different type of man. One who won't hurt me (hoping), love me unconditionally and doesn't have to try and fix the hurt I was feeling from the other men I've dated. It was time for me to grow and learn that not everyone is out to hurt me. If I'm hurt by someone then I would need to take some time out and evaluate why I'm hurting. Then I'd pray and move on with life until it was time for me to do it again. Hopefully the next time I'll get it right and Mr right will no longer be Mr wrong!

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  1. TanashaOctober 14, 2013 at 5:18 PM

    To me when we go through this it helps us grow. Grow as a person and we learn what and what not to tolerate.

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